Let’s take a break from my usual beauty blabber and talk more about other aspects of my life.. my pending wedding announcement! One reason I started my blog was to keep track with my future wedding plans. So, just how is that going? Well, let me explain…
If you haven’t read about Mr. Right and I’s Engagement Story, feel free to catch up. At the time of this post, we are now into our engagement period 3 years and 5 months exactly. Yes, it is a long engagement and a non-traditional one, but we accomplished so much in this time and I do not regret it. We’re a non-traditional couple; to be honest. Mr. Right and I had discussed engagement often prior to him asking me to be his wife. One topic of conversation was how soon to be wed afterward and we both were in no rush.
When Mr. Right purposed to me, I was a recent post college graduate searching for steady and reliable full-time work. I did not have my own vehicle for transportation and we both lived at home with family. Personally, there was a lot I wanted and needed to do before thinking about a wedding, but who says you have to get married in one year’s time? Timing is everything and I have faith in a higher power that all will fall into place when it is your time. We knew we loved each other and didn’t want to go through life without one another, so we made that commitment to be engaged. 🙂
Year One (2017)
For my first year of engagement, I simply enjoyed it. I enjoyed spreading the news to family and friends and I reveled in their excitement, happiness and well wishes for us. I loved telling close friends the uncanny way we met and browsing through wedding decor photos on Pinterest.
Honestly, I didn’t even think about the actual wedding. I only dreamed of finding the right guy for me and spending forever together.
Year Two (2018)
Our second year of engagement came with a lot of life changes. I found full time work, purchased a vehicle AND we moved in to our new home together. In this year, we learned a lot about each other, as it was our first time living together and closing up our somewhat long-distance relationship gap. We also learned a lot about the home buying process as well as home ownership responsibilities; which is a lot in itself. This portion of our engagement, I feel has been the most vital in our overall foundation of the relationship and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.
Year Three (2019)
This year was filled with trials and tribulations for us and honestly, I can’t wait until it comes to a close so we can focus on brighter things ahead. We faced many things that added stress to our financial stability. Home repairs that were unexpected, car repairs and breakage, and even loss of employment for a few months. We learned about each other’s weaknesses and breaking points. We strengthened our communication and learned how (and when) to discuss things so it can be handled and each of us get the support we need. We fucking adulted hard! I’m so proud of us. 🙂 It wasn’t easy by a long shot, but necessary.
Now, things are settling. Routines are starting to fall into place and we can comfortably begin to plan for the future. The future of our finances, our home and importantly, a future for us. With all that being said, I am finally in the headspace to start wedding planning! There still is a lot to handle outside the wedding plans, but it should be an enjoyable experience and one that unfolds in time.
What do you think about longer engagements?
I know some couples have beliefs that may keep them from living together prior to marriage, but in this day-and-age, finding a forever partner is not to be taken lightly. The added time to spend together and getting to know each other deeply and your compatibility, is important for a lasting relationship. Everyone needs to make the right choice for them (not the right choice for your family or sake of tradition).
Now that I have come to a solid decision on what kind of wedding I would like, as well as setting an official date, the clock is ticking! In my next post I’ll talk more about our wedding plans and how we arrived at those.